Are You The Ideal Partner?

We can spend a lot of time in a relationship focusing on what we like, what we don't like...in our partner. However, it is a waste of time and effort trying to change our partner. Worse, the blame/defensive cycle eventually chokes off all the good feelings you have for one another.

It is much wiser to accept the fact that you do not have the power to change your partner. You do have the power to change how you respond to and influence (influence is different than change!) your partner.

Instead of waiting for the right partner, you want to be the right partner.

Take a couple minutes and visualize the kind of partner you want to be in your relationship.

What is your personal philosophy about relationship success and how well do you embody this philosophy? What are the character strengths that you bring to the relationship? What are the strengths that you want to develop?

How do affirm your commitment to connection, placing what is best for the WE over what is best for the ME?

Are you satisfied with your ability to express yourself in a way that pulls your partner closer? How skilled are you at being attuned to your partner's needs for love and self esteem?

One of the laws of the universe is that you attract what you are, not what you want. When you take the time to refocus your energy on changing yourself instead of changing your partner, your relationship finally has a chance to change!