Can I Depend On You?

It is our connection to others that is the source our psychological health and well being.

We need a safe and loving relationship with someone we trust. However, giving love is sometimes easier than receiving love. Asking for love, receiving love can make us feel vulnerable. Many of us struggle feeling entitled to our neediness.

How about you?

- Was being able to reach for and trust others seen as a strength in your household growing up?

- Did past relationships teach you that loved ones were unreliable and that you had to fight to be seen or heard?

- Were you ever abused or neglected by the people that you trusted and depended on?

- Did you grow up with parents who were controling or intrusive?

- What do you ususally do when you need comfort? Do you turn towards others? Your partner? Or do you turn away and try to comfort yourself?


Couples can become closer and more collaberative when they turn toward rather than away from each other during times of stress. Becoming ATTUNED to these needs for love, closeness, and validation are very important. A successful realtionship is a partnership between two emotionally accessible and responsive individuals. When you trust your partner to be there for you in times of need, that is when you can breath a sigh of relief. Safe at last!