What's In Your Connection Repair Tool Kit?

To make the inevitable conflict in relationships beneficial, you MUST know how to repair emotional disconnects.

And, just because conflict is normal, necessary and beneficial to a relationship, that doesn't mean there won't be emotional disconnects along the way.

Feeling free enough to express your true feelings can be based, in part, on the understanding that you and your partner know how to reconnect after emotionally stressful encounters.

So, start putting together an emotional connection repair kit.

Couples with good repair skills say things like...


We are good at taking breaks when we need them.

My partner usually accepts my apologies.

I can say that I am wrong.

I am pretty good at calming myself down.

We can maintain a sense of humor.

When my partner says we should talk to each other in a different way it
usually makes a lot of sense.

My attempts to repair our discussions when they get negative are usually
effective.

We are pretty good listeners even when we have different positions on things.

If things get heated, we can usually pull out of it and change the direction.

My spouse is good at soothing me when I get upset.

I feel confident that we can resolve most issues between us.

When I comment on how we could communicate better my spouse listens to me.

Even if things get hard at times I know we can get past our differences.

We can be affectionate even when we are disagreeing.

Teasing and humor usually work to get my spouse over negativity.

Reconnecting emotionally is a fundamental skill of connected couples. That's how they stay that way!