Why You Should Try

We live in a disposable society.

Plates, silverware, cups, glasses, napkins, contact lenses, razors – buy ‘em, use ‘em, toss them away.

I’m sure you could add to the list of items that have so little intinsic value that we are comfortable just tossing them away when they have served their purpose.

Do relationships fit into that category? When you look around it sure feels that way, sometimes.

Some people try on and toss off relationships left and right. With a divorce rate hovering at 50 per cent since the 60’s, it’s hard to argue that some of us have put relationships into that disposable category.

I am here to say… stop. Relationships do not qualify as something so utilitarian that they can be tossed aside when we think they are no longer useful.

I’m not saying that some relationships just are not meant to work and that divorce is the wrong choice one hundred per cent of the time. I am for happiness and romance and bliss… and the mystical chemistry of a relationship can make that difficult to find.

What I am saying is that you can’t be so hasty in deciding that your relationship has run its course.

Here’s why. Most people want to give up on a relationship and start over again at the first sign of differences… at the first hint of discord… at the first whiff of conflict.

But that’s just when the party is getting started.

When the differences start coming up – and they have to – you and your partner are leaving the first stage of your relationship and progressing into the second stage.

It’s good news. You are starting to differentiate. You are beginning to actually learn who this person you’ve committed to really is. And, vice-versa.

Sure conflict isn’t pleasant, but learning about this completely different person you are with can be exciting.

And, REALLY learning about each other is ESSENTIAL to the growth of your relationship.

So, before you decide to bail on another relationship, change your perspective and see what the conflict can teach you about your partner… and about yourself.

If you break through this stage you may just find the relationship you have always dreamed of waiting for you on the other side.

In my work I have seen countless couples who walk in the door ready to give up. With this new perspective, many walk out ready, willing and able to try and save the relationship.

And, sometimes, that is all it takes.